SInce 1997 when I started covering the PBA beat, I’ve seen dozens of fistfights, bench-clearing brawls, shouting or shoving matches that require cooler heads to intervene.
The brief physical collision between San Mig Super Coffee forward Marc Pingris and Meralco Bolts center James Sena in an elimination round game on May 27, is something that normally happens in a highly-physical basketball game.
Pingris swung his right arm as a “knee-jerk” reaction after being hit on his left rib by Sena’s elbow while trying to set a pick during the waning minutes of the first half.
The hit drew the ire of Pingris, who, in the heat of the moment, retaliated by throwing a punch on Sena, which, fortunately, didn’t land solidly at the Bolts center’s back.
Then, cooler heads intervened.
Both players insist that they have no intention to harm one another. But what registers in the mind of people when they see the act is what really sticks.
Like Pingris, everybody goes through a time when we tend to lose control of ourselves.
* When we accidentally spill a cup of hot coffee at our lap, we either curse or say something unpleasant.
* A car accident tends to raise our blood pressure, especially because of the stress, the hassle of dealing with an erring driver, and the time wasted as you wait for the police report.
In whatever situation we face, everybody needs self-control.
As a father of three kids – 8 years old, 6 years old and a two-year-old, self-control is needed for me not to blow my top when they mess. And honestly, it is difficult, especially with kids start messing up.
Here’s what I realized: controlling one’s self or temper requires more than just a “self-control”.
And will power won’t help. Instead, what we need is God’s help, God’s power.
I’m reminded of a Bible passage in 2 Timothy 1:7 (Good News Translation), which says, “For the Spirit that God has given us does not make us timid; instead, his Spirit fills us with power, love, and self-control.”
When we tap on God’s power, we let Him take control of our emotions and make Him our Lord.