My wife and I just came from the wedding of our close friends Paul and Venoit this Monday night.
The wedding had a “fairy tale” theme, which was held at Fernbrook in Muntinlupa.
As we watch the wedding ceremony and enjoy the creative program during reception, I can’t help but think of the fact that a lot of people still wish to have an “ever after” type of marriage in their lifetime.
An “ever after” that means riding through the sunset – happy, contented, at peace and be in a relationship that is full of laughter.
But is an “ever after” marriage still possible at all in this day and age, where the “live-in” setup or worse, marriages that end up in divorce, are a common thing?
We have several friends, whose married lives were shattered for various reasons – from infidelity, to vices, among others
But going back to Monday’s “fairy tale” wedding, we knew Paul and Venoit since their college days.
I was able to personally mentor Paul in his spiritual walk as a Christian during his days as central student council president of the University of the East-Recto.
On the other hand, Venoit was also mentored by several women friends we have, before she eventually served as a full-time campus minister of LifeBox U-Belt.
Both of them are excited to start their new life as married couple. Both have lofty dreams. Both have great plans also for their future kids.
And they have their “fairy tale” theme entitled “Ever After”, not because they like fairy tale movies, but because of their faith that a marriage centered on God, can lead to a lasting, storm-proof marriage.
Having been married for close to 10 years, personally, I should say an “ever after” marriage is difficult to experience, unless both the husband and the wife are rooted deeply in their relationship with God.
Honestly, Ava and I wouldn’t have lasted this long, without dear friends, who love us, cover us in prayer and support us even through the most trying times of life.
So is it still possible to experience an “ever after” marriage after all? My answer is, YES!
I’m reminded of a passage in Psalm 127:1, which states, “Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain.”
A thriving marriage only happens when a couple decides to build their relationship, not on wealth, fame, career advancement or success, but on God.
By this, I mean, letting God lead our marriage everyday – in the good and the bad circumstances of life
Our life as a couple isn’t lived in a “bed of roses” because we realize that marriage isn’t going to be happy times all the time.
My wife and I have misunderstandings and “passionate discussions” (another term for arguments) which are normal occurrences in the life of a married couple.
But at the end of the day, what really keeps us together, isn’t our kids. What keeps us together isn’t the “goodness” we have inside of us.
Instead, what will continue to bind us together is still God. Again, with the help of our Christian friends, who remind us that God ought to be the “Ultimate Builder” of our marriage, “ever after” is possible after all.