Forgiveness is one of the most difficult things we could ever do as a human being, especially when you’re at the receiving end of a misdeed.
I’ve been married for the past 11 years, and honestly, there were days when I make dumb mistakes and say words I ought not to say or actions I ought not to do to my wife.
There were even days when out of anger, I hurt my kids with my words.
But in all these, I am truly grateful to God for reminding me that all my mistakes– past, present and future have been forgiven through Christ’s death on the cross.
Oklahoma Thunder assistant coach Monty Williams’ speech at the memorial of his wife Ingrid on Thursday speaks volume of how powerful it is to forgive someone who have terribly hurt you.
Below is an excerpt from coach Williams’ speech that I saw at Usatoday.com. And may we all be inspired by it and more importantly, be reminded that forgiveness can never be done apart from God’s help.
“I want to close with this, and I think it’s the most important thing we need to understand. Everyone is praying for me and my family, which is right, but let us not forget that there were two people in this situation. And that family needs prayer as well, and we have no ill will towards that family. In my house, we have a sign that says, ‘As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.’
“We cannot serve the Lord if we don’t have a heart of forgiveness. That family didn’t wake up wanting to hurt my wife. Life is hard. It is very hard, and that was tough, but we hold no ill will toward the Donaldson family. And we, as a group, brothers united in unity, should be praying for that family because they grieve as well. So let’s not lose sight of what’s important.”
Coach Williams was able to release forgiveness to the one who wronged his family because of their family’s decision to “serve the Lord.”
If you want further lessons on real forgiveness, check out this short blog from Rick Warren, author of the best-selling book Purpose-Driven Life.
Leaving you with this Bible passage in Ephesians 4:31-32 (MSG)-
“Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.”